I really enjoyed reading your thoughts and observations. I truly agree with the fact mother is not the part of the triangle but she has a higher and a respectful position and wife should be respectful to the husband.
The problem starts because men do not have the liberty and space to maintain these two very different relationships without the interfarence of the third.
I wanted to highlight the point that man is given the authority by Allah so he should balance and then be the king, as you said. He is not a soft banana….better not be squished!
I don’t think it was a negative dscussion at all…rather its an important aspect and root cause of many problems mentioned in a lighter mood by the writer…however iwould like to share my thoughts also in this regard..An old Western saying goes: “A daughter is a daughter for all her life, a son is a son till he gets a wife.” charms of love and marriage do create a state of imbalance in a man’s life…Men must understand their duties towards their parents and not turn into morons the day after being married. Women as wives, must understand that a short-term gain in term of material advantages and power can lead to a great loss in the long term, for the exclusive relationship that they try to impose with their husbands comes at the risk of his other obligations.I am not saying that parents are always sweet and understanding but being their children its our duty to balance and maintain good relationship..parents and especially mothers are the potent source of prayers…one must never forget that!!!
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LOL, the first comment was longer than your article
But I seriously do have a problem understanding how obedient sons can be obedient husbands?
Obedient sons will always obey their moms to be mean and strict to their wife, and thus will enver be obedient to their wife
Also everyone has a unique experience in life, the first commentor’s experience with mom-in-law must be bad, so it speaks in her write up. The next commentor who says that the mothers prayers are important, must have had a good experience with a loving praying mother-in-law. Its our experience that really moderate our thinkings.
But I fully agree that the mom can affect the husband-wife relationship if the son is blindly obedient, but very rarely have I seen that a wife can do the same… unless the mom and the obedient son have really screwed things up for her, and even then she is usually powerless.
Also, I’m proud of all the those girls who can say that moms pray, because alot of factors play before she can actually pray for her son and the betterment of his family, and that he loves his family and nurtures them….. but then again that may just be my bad experience!
It was nice stopping by your blog. Good stuff!
Thanks dunia! I was only amused by this formula that some boys learn how to obey…i strictly believe men should give both ladies their rights which ultimately leads to peaceful homes…BUT men as all humans are not perfect!!
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